Swingers clubs and sex parties in London are private venues and events where consenting adults meet for social and sexual activity, usually as couples. They run on strict rules about consent and privacy. Nobody is paid for sex, which is the legal difference from escorting, and a venue where sex is paid for is a different matter in law.
How a club or party works
Entry is by membership or ticket. Many venues admit couples and set limits on single men, and some admit single women. There are usually a bar area where people talk and play areas that are used by agreement, and a dress code, ID checks and house rules at the door. Many clubs hold an alcohol licence under the Licensing Act 2003. Parties are held in hired venues, hotels or private homes, often by invitation, and you pay for the ticket and not for anything else. What a swinger is explains the terms.
Etiquette
- No means no, and a first no is final. Do not ask twice.
- Ask before you touch, and accept an invitation or a refusal without comment.
- No photographs, no recording and no phones in the play areas.
- Do not stare, hover or follow people around.
- Use condoms, keep hygiene, and leave if you are uncomfortable.
- Keep what you see private. Do not share names or details afterwards.
The law
Sex between consenting adults on private premises is lawful, and swinging is not prostitution because nobody is paid. Sex in a place the public can see can be an offence, such as exposure or outraging public decency. Dogging explains the offences. If money is paid for sex at an event, it is escorting in law and the brothel offences can apply to whoever organises it. Depending on what a venue offers, other licences can apply, so a legitimate venue will be open about its status.
Safety and health
- Agree your boundaries and a stop word with your partner beforehand.
- Use condoms, and test regularly. STI testing in London explains how.
- Someone who is too drunk or high cannot consent. If you or a partner are, stop.
- Arrange your own way home, and tell a friend where you are going.
Parties and escorts
A couple who want a third person sometimes book an escort instead of looking for one at a club. It is paid, time limited and agreed in advance. Duo escorts, polyamory and open relationships and how booking works cover it.
Why this site does not list venues
Venues change names, owners and rules often, and this is a reference site. It explains how clubs and parties work and does not recommend any.