Femdom is short for female domination: any dynamic in which a woman takes the dominant role and her partner takes the submissive one. It is a broad description rather than a specific activity, and it covers everything from a mild power shift in a bedroom to a formal, negotiated scene.
Femdom and dominatrix are not the same word
Femdom describes the dynamic. Dominatrix describes a role, and usually a professional one: a woman who does this as her work, with a dungeon or a well equipped space and a defined list of what she will and will not do. All professional dominatrices work within femdom. Most femdom is not professional at all.
What a dominatrix does covers the professional side properly.
The range inside the word
- Psychological. Orders, rules, denial, humiliation if it has been agreed. Often no physical contact at all.
- Physical. Restraint, impact play, pegging, foot worship, whatever both people have agreed to.
- Financial. Findom, which is its own thing and carries its own risks.
- Lifestyle. A dynamic that continues outside scenes rather than being switched on for an hour.
What it is not
It is not abuse with a label on it. Everything in a femdom scene is negotiated beforehand, bounded by a safe word, and stops when that word is used. The dominant partner carries more responsibility, not less: she is the one running it and the one who has to notice when something is going wrong.
Booking it in London
Professional domination is usually booked by the hour or longer, often at a dedicated space rather than a hotel, and rates run above standard bookings because the skill and the equipment are specialised. Say what you are after in the first message rather than hinting. Fetish and domination escorts covers arranging it, and London dungeons covers the venues.